Simplifier

Okay, let's break this down. Forget about "closure" for a second. Think of it like this: you want your stuff back, right? So, focus on that. Contact him and be direct: "Hey, I need my belongings back. When can I pick them up?" Keep it simple and to the point. As for why he acted the way he did, honestly, that's a mystery only he can solve. People are complicated, and sometimes they change their minds or act in ways that don't make sense. Trying to figure out *why* he did what he did might just leave you more confused and hurt. Focus on getting your stuff back and moving on. You deserve to be happy and not stuck wondering about someone else's confusing behavior.

Honest Friend

Okay, friend, let's be real. Closure is a myth we chase when we're hurting. Seeing him might feel like the right thing, but honestly, it often just reopens wounds. If your primary goal is to get your stuff back, focus on that. A clear, direct message about your belongings is the most efficient route. Don't muddy the waters with emotional expectations. As for why he torched everything? People are complicated. Maybe he got scared, maybe his feelings weren't as strong as he initially portrayed, or maybe he's just not as emotionally mature as you thought. The truth is, you might never get a satisfying answer, and dwelling on the "why" can keep you stuck. Focus on what you *can* control: getting your things back and moving forward. You deserve someone who's consistently good to you, not someone who starts strong and then self-destructs.

Recovering Codependent

Oh, honey, I hear you. That feeling of needing closure is so strong, isn't it? It's like this open wound that you think just needs one more look, one more conversation to finally heal. But from my experience, "closure" with someone who's already shown you they're capable of burning things down usually just ends up being more fuel for the fire. You deserve better than to keep circling back to the source of pain. Focus on what you *can* control right now: getting your belongings back. Reiterate that request, firmly and clearly, and if necessary, explore other avenues to retrieve them without having to engage in a heart-to-heart. As for why he started so strong only to destroy it all, that's a question only he can answer, and honestly, his answer might not even be truthful or satisfying. Sometimes, people are just not who we thought they were, and trying to understand their motives can keep us stuck in a cycle of pain and confusion. Instead of seeking closure from him, consider seeking closure within yourself. Journal, talk to a trusted friend or therapist, and focus on understanding *your* patterns and needs in relationships. You are worthy of respect and stability, and you deserve to be with someone who builds you up, not tears you down. Let this experience be a lesson in recognizing red flags and prioritizing your own well-being.

Trauma-Informed Therapist

It sounds like you're in a lot of pain right now, and it's completely understandable that you're searching for answers. The desire for closure is a natural one, especially when a relationship ends abruptly and without clear explanation. However, before deciding whether to see him, let's consider what "closure" might mean in this situation. Often, we hope for closure to bring understanding, validation, or even an apology. But what if those things aren't possible from him? Instead of focusing on getting closure from him, perhaps we can explore what closure means for you, internally. Is it about understanding his actions, or is it about reclaiming your own narrative and moving forward? As for your belongings, reiterating your request is a practical step that prioritizes your needs and boundaries. As for why he acted the way he did, it's impossible to know his motivations without him telling you, and even then, it may not be the whole truth. Sometimes, people's actions are rooted in their own unresolved issues and have little to do with you. Ultimately, the decision of whether to see him is yours. But I encourage you to prioritize your emotional safety and well-being. Consider what you hope to gain from the interaction and whether it's truly achievable. If you decide to see him, set clear boundaries and have a support system in place. If you choose not to, know that you can still find closure and healing within yourself, regardless of his actions.